
Living with Erythromelalgia is an online patient support community that is powered by BensFriends.org, a network of patient support communities for rare diseases. Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.
Erythromelalgia (EM) is a rare neurovascular pain disorder that can cause redness and pain in all parts of the body, but most frequently the extremities, such as the hands and feet. It is characterized by intense burning pain, severe redness (erythema), and increased skin temperature that may be episodic or almost continuous in nature. The specific underlying cause of EM remains unknown.
Erythromelalgia may occur either as a primary or secondary disorder (i.e. a disorder in and of itself or a symptom of another condition). Secondary erythromelalgia can result from small fiber peripheral neuropathy of any cause, essential thrombocytosis (erythromelalgia can also develop in the presence of normal platelet counts in patients with myeloproliferative disorder), hypercholesterolemia, mushroom or mercury poisoning, and some autoimmune disorders. Primary erythromelalgia is caused by mutation of the voltage-gated sodium channel α-subunit gene SCN9A.
LivingWithErythromelalgia.org is a virtual peer-to-peer community intended to be a safe place for patients and family members as young as age 12, to visit for information, discussion, venting and mutual support. Members come from many backgrounds. Some have a strong religious faith, and others no faith; some are children and others adults, rich and poor, graduate educated or taught by life. Our common denominators are that we share a life journey, and we try to help each other.
How is Ben’s Friends Different from Social Media and Other Support Sites?
Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.
We’re interested in you as a person, and in your struggles as a rare disease patient. But we don’t want to know your name or where you live. We won’t even allow you to use your real name when you register for one of our communities. Because when it comes to medical things, anonymity is important in our googly universe. Your information is never shared, and your activity never tracked by adware.
When Ben’s Friends asks for the country and region you live in, that’s in case your fellow members can recommend local resources and help, and so everyone knows what kind of medical system there is where you live. That’s important when it comes to giving and getting support. Because we are all about support, and we’re all in this together..
Ben’s Friends: Safe and Supportive.
And anonymous to keep it that way.
Why create an account?
Posts on the different Ben’s Friends communities can be read by anyone on the internet. You can browse through the different topics and find most of the information you’re looking for but there are many things you won’t be able to do unless you create an account. These include:
Making your own posts. Although you’re able to find useful information just by reading other members’ posts, you might still have a lot of questions in your mind. Either you want to start a new topic to talk about them in detail or you want to reply to a comment on a thread. These won’t be possible unless you create a new user account.
Viewing other members’ profiles. Member profiles include information about the country or region they are from, whether they are a patient or a caregiver, and details about their disease and treatments. Maybe you came across an interesting post and you want to learn more about the member. Or maybe you’re looking for members who are from the same country as you. Having a user account allows you to see other member profiles and find information that may be relevant.
Sending private messages. Aside from being able to post publicly and commenting on a thread, having a user account also allows you to send private messages both to other members and moderators. In case you want to discuss a topic only with a specific person, this is possible by sending private messages when you have created your account.
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Latest Discussions
- Toenail removal flare!by Leeni7 on November 25, 2025
Hi everyone! I’m new here so I hope I’m following the rules properly! I’m in my late 30’s married and mom to 3 year old boy and have a laundry list of conditions: hyper-mobile EDS type 3, POTS, MCAS, CRPS, mold illness, etc…. I’m wondering if anyone else has had permanent toenail […]
- Our Community Is Coming Together. Here Is How You Can Helpby ModSupport on November 25, 2025
Hi everyone, As we approach the end of the year, our entire Ben’s Friends network is launching our annual community support campaign. Each forum plays an important role, so we wanted to share a few simple ways you can help strengthen this space we all rely on. Most importantly, there is never any […]
- New EM diagnosis/Treatmentby Rclouviere on November 9, 2025
After 5 years, I’ve been diagnosed with erythromylalgia. Started with very red right foot and extreme pain on tips of middle toes. Pain eventually went away. I have cold or heat sensations on those toes. Also had numbness on those toes on the right foot. Now i have numbness on toes on both feet. […]
- How do you cope with the heat in summer?by Michelle55 on November 5, 2025
Hi there everyone, I’m just wondering how you all cope with the heat in summer? Im in Australia, and it’s spring time so summer is just around the corner. My EM is very servere , and the slightest warmth puts me in so much intense pain. I end up sleeping in the lounge room in a chair with my […]
- Please helpby Michelle55 on November 5, 2025
Is there anything that stops the burning? 12 posts – 2 participants Read full topic
- Red blotchesby Michelle55 on November 4, 2025
Hi . Does anyone else get these raised blotches on their feet with EM? Michelle 2 posts – 2 participants Read full topic
- Does this match your EM?by Unused_carrot on October 14, 2025
Deep bruising pain (feels like walking on bruises) leading to flare. Burning sensation during flare. Lack of blood after flare. Although the burning and 95% of pain is relieved by taking shoes off and sitting down. The flare doesn’t stick around after. Only discomfort through day to day. Standing […]
- Hi all needing helpby Michelle55 on October 4, 2025
Hi, I have extremely bad Erythromelalgia. It’s warming up here in Australia now, and of course the heat puts me in excruciating pain. I’m just wondering how you all deal with the heat when your feet are burning. Thank you kindly. Michelle 10 posts – 4 participants Read […]
- Advice for Treatement in NSWby john on September 20, 2025
Hi, Our 27 year old son has just been diagnosed with EM by a neurologist. The doctor isn’t experienced with treatments and was unable to refer us to someone appropriate. We are in NSW Australia and hoped someone could point us towards a doctor with experience in EM. We would initially like to […]
- I really need to make a friendby Michelle55 on September 10, 2025
Hi, I’m struggling so badly. I’m Michelle, 55, and live in Australia, but I’m finding it hard to find people in the same country as me. I do still love hearing from everyone and all different countries but, I would like to maybe have a friend from Australia too. We are in spring now which I […]






